Who doesn't love a wedding, right? Its a joyous occasion to be shared with loved ones and those closest to you. At least that's what I want our wedding to be. No distant aunts or cousins, none of your parent's friends whom you don't know, not those weirdo coworkers out for a night of raucous drinking on your dime, etc.
I have tried hard to make our wedding small, intimate and filled with love. This is why "you" weren't invited.
I have grown tired of people asking me to be invited to our wedding. If I only talk to you at the bar or better yet, if you are a friend of a friend who has no emotional investment in us, you're not invited.
You're not invited if I haven't talked to you in years. You're not invited if you're not part of our daily lives. You're not invited if you once bought me a beer three years ago. You're not invited if you just happened to show up at that awesome Halloween party I had in 2007. You're not invited just because I know you. You're not invited because I don't have a bazillion dollars to spend entertaining people I barely know and have no connection with.
The Boy and I are extremely private people. We have worked hard to cultivate the friendships that we have. I am sorry that there are some people that I can't invite. I would love to have all the fun party people I know there. But, unfortuantely, I can't.
Feelings will be hurt. Acquaintanceships will be severed. I get it. But YOU should get it, too. YOU should understand that times is hard, monies is tight. YOU should also understand that because you don't have a car, I am not picking you up to take you to my wedding that I didn't invite you to. So please stop asking.
K. Thnx. Bye.
4 hours ago
I am in the same place as you. We're having a small wedding, and I dont regret it. We happen to be having it out of town, so its easier to explain why we're having it small, and why "you" are not invited. Still we're very early on in the process and its hard making cuts and deciding where the fine line between "invited" and "not invited" best falls.
ReplyDeletegirl, i know its hard! but in the end, it will be worth it!
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